emmyette
30 September 2008 @ 03:13 pm
All because of this:

[D]on't take the "safe route." Sure, you could probably handle the world where you are and do just fine. But don't you want to do more than just handle it?

...

And really, it comes down to where you think you'll be happiest. Do you really think you'll be unhappy [...], or are you just afraid that you might be unhappy?


I hope it's okay that I put this here. I think as soon as I get home I'm going to print it out and keep a copy on every mirror I look into, inside my dash compartment in my truck, on my laptop, and EVERYWHERE. This girl...she's like a musical Gala Darling and this is why I love her!
 
 
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emmyette
11 September 2008 @ 07:44 pm
For those of us who are relationship impaired and struggle to maintain romantic liaisons, here is some advice:

Remember the last time you got in a fight or argument with your significant other? Wasn’t it frustrating? Wasn’t it painful? Was it necessary? What can we do to best deal with these situations without ruining our relationships?

Relationships with our spouses and girl/boy-friends can be one of the most rewarding aspects of our lives. We hold a special place for that someone with whom we’ve shared countless moments of joy. Personality differences are inevitable, and what makes us unique as individuals can result in disagreements and conflicts during our relationship.

When these disagreements are not properly understood and managed emotionally, trivial exchanges can stir into full-on battles, and possibly end what we’ve spent months or years to build.

Yes, there are relationships where personalities are mismatched and breakups are beneficial. However, many breakups are unnecessary, as a result of built up anger and destructive cycles. When they happen, we experience a tremendous amount of pain and emotional hurt.

By facing our partners with awareness and a genuine desire for understanding, I believe that we hold the key to wellness in these special relationships.


"How to Keep a Relationship," from Think Simple Now





(lol, yeah...I know nothing about this, so I defer to other sources for advice in matters of the heart)
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emmyette
02 August 2008 @ 12:59 am


Stop it. Freeze. Whatever you're doing--don't do it anymore. Just pause for a second, 'kay? Don't click onto YouTube or MySpace or whatever else you usually do at a time like this. Just stop moving your hand for a moment, alright? Don't type in that familiar URL and don't click on that link in your bookmarks or favorites or whatever it is you call them. Just stop.

There is a whole world out there and it was created for you to take enjoyment from. And remember, you are amazing. )

Written kind of as a pep talk for myself, but I figured y'all might get some use out of it as well. :)
 
 
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emmyette
30 July 2008 @ 11:50 am
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We all want things. If you're like me, you want a lot of things. But the key question here is: How do we get those things?

Well, I take the lawyer-route and argue my way to something. (I know, weird strategy for someone who hates confrontation.)

Here's how I win arguments:


♦ First, make sure you're calm. Otherwise, you'll just come off as a crazy. By entering into confrontation with a serene mind-set, you'll be able to quickly analyze and assess the other person's arguments effectively. Your own arguments will also come of with a sense of clarity and strength.

♦ Make sure that you have counter-arguments to your own points thought up. It'll help you deflect their attacks, if you can anticipate what they'll say next.

♦ Keep an open mind, a good argument is one that can adapt and a good debater is one who is willing to compromise in order to keep the peace.

♦ Start off with something along the lines of, "I know you probably feel that..." "In the past I realize that [I / you / you and I]..." "I understand that..." etc. It'll show that you respect their point of view from the get go.

♦ Include phrases such as those listed above during your argument as well, it'll show that you are aware of the mindset of your opponent and that is the best way to get him/her on your side--showing that you can see things from their perspective.

♦ Have valid arguments. Don't just use "because" or "I think I deserve it." List the why and the how and back everything up with something that the other person will respect. They'll be more likely to concede to your way of seeing things.

♦ Be prepared to compromise. We don't always get what we ask for, and sometimes we've just got to go with what we can get. This is not setting yourself up for defeat! It's just accepting that you may not get EVERYTHING you want. Be prepared to say, "It's fine with me that you want __________. But I think it's only fair that in return I get ____________." And the key thing to remember when it comes to compromising? Equivalent exchange. You give, they give, and in the end, the giving on both ends equals out to be as close to the same on either side as you can get.

♦ Wear a snazzy outfit. Because if you're going to lose, you better look good while doing it. ;)


* Against Someone Enlightened who is Willing to hear your Part.
 
 
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