Big Girls Don't Cry
Fergie

Da Da Da Da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
Your probably on your flight back to your home town
I need some shelter of my own protection baby
To be with myself and center, clarity
Peace, Serenity

[CHORUS]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, Myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

The path that I'm walking
I must go alone
I must take the baby steps 'til I'm full grown
Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending, do they
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay

[CHORUS]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, Myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry

Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and uno cards
Ill be your best friend and you'll be mine
Valentine
Yes you can hold my hand if u want to
Cause I want to hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers and share our secret worlds
But its time for me to go home
Its getting late, dark outside
I need to be with myself and center, clarity
Peace, Serenity

[CHORUS]
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, Myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

La Da Da Da Da Da

I don't really mean this to most of you that read this. It's really aimed at one person in particular, but really, I think it's something that everyone needs to hear every once and a while. So I'll go ahead and put it here for everyone. So that you can look back when you are acting childish and get a nice li'l rude wake up call.

Well...yeah...so I heard this song quite recently on the radio and I really, really liked it. It made me think. About stuff that happened over back in May. I remember on the last night of Pizazz, when people were crying all about. Beth, Rob, and I didn't. I can remember that one person in particular said to us, "How can you not cry?" (I'm pretty sure that you can figure out whom)

It wasn't that we weren't sad, we just...had been sadder. Or, at least, I had. I mean, really, just because we've graduated and we aren't in high school anymore, doesn't mean that we are immediately going to forget about each other. And, let's face it, I don't want to sound mean or anything, but we are going to have to see much, much harder times ahead. If you cry just because your friends are moving on with their lives, preparing to accomplish great things, then, I'm sorry, but what the fuck are you going to do when something actually traumatic happens?

As we grow older, we are going to have to see our family and friends pass on. Hopefully, they will all go after a full, long, happy life. But there can't always be guarantees. Before they go, they may see hard and painful times, and no doubt, you'll want to be there for them. The things that will happen in life, are going to make friends leaving for college like a frat party (okay, okay...bad pun, sorry). You have to realize that all the petty little things that have bothered you now will seem like last week's mashed potatoes in comparison to the hell that faces you. And you know what? You are going to have to keep it together. Yeah, that's right, no just locking yourself up because you are depressed. That doesn't exist once you're older.

You think I haven't seen it. But I have. I've seen people come back from a lot of shit. One person in particular. And yeah, she's sad and depressed a lot. I am, too, mainly because I'm very close to her and in tune with her because of it. But we have NEVER locked ourselves away from the world. Neither of us have ever just gone and shut the door and remained completely incommunicado just because we were SAD. We reached out for our friends and spent more time relying on them. And, sure, maybe we weren't the most fun to be around in those times. But the point is, that they didn't care. They stood there and helped us through our hard times. Friends, acquaintances, people who we hadn't been close to in years, came and supported us through our hard time. And, you know what? We survived. We kept moving forward. We refused to just stop and lock ourselves away until the sadness left us. If we had, we probably wouldn't be associating with the world now. We would probably still be locked up in our own depression.

Sure, there are sad things in life, but when that happens, you can't cry. I'm sorry to say (and this is really only kind of aimed at one person in particular), but we're big girls and boys now. We can't cry just because some friends of ours are moving on to do big and great things with their lives--even if we ourselves aren't following them. Everyone moves onto their own individual big and great things in their own time. And while they are waiting to, they don't cry. They spend as much time sharing and relishing the few precious moments they have left. Because you never know when you are actually going to lose the people you care about. But, and I speak from experience, it certainly isn't now. And, you know what? If you are still childish enough to lock yourself away and throw a tantrum about a few friends going off to achieve some kick-ass things (with or without you), then maybe you shouldn't have graduated, because you are certainly not grown up and you are certainly not ready to be there when they need you. So grow up and face facts. Sure, it's sad. But we're big girls and boys now. Big girls and boys don't cry. They sit and think things through, and then move past them in a timely manner. They don't marinate in their own depression. They move past it and adapt. They grow. They change so that they are never stuck in that same position again. They don't close the door behind themselves. They don't cry over mashed potatoes from last week. They forget the fucking potatoes and make some cake.